I recently had the honor of being interviewed by Insights Magazine on the use of the Enneagram in coaching and the presence based approach taken by Deep Coaching. It appears in print at the link below. If you’d like to read the article in pdf form, there’s a link on the lower left side of the page.
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Thursday,
August
5th,
2010
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Monday,
August
2nd,
2010
Have you found that you cannot imagine coaching without the Enneagram?
Our Enneagram coach training offered through the Deep Coaching Certification program provides an advanced, unique, and in-depth learning opportunity well suited for experienced human development professionals wishing to integrate the rich benefits of presence-based Enneagram work into their professional niche. If this sounds like you, please join me for a fr*ee introductory call on the program on Tuesday, Aug. 10.
I’ll share three robust principles and practices of presence-based Enneagram coaching that leads to profound results. You’ll learn about the program’s framework, how it is structured to support your continuing growth and embodiment of the Enneagram’s wisdom as a person and for more effective coaching results. And there will be time to answer your questions.
Go to www.deepcoachinginstitute.com and click on the registration link on the right column of the website.
I look forward to seeing you there.
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Tuesday, Aug. 10, 11:30 a.m.-12:30 pm PT.
Categories : Being Present, Coach training, Coaching, Deep Coaching - The Book, Enneagram, Enneagram coach training
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Friday,
May
14th,
2010
Do you remember having a speech or other public activity videotaped in order for you to see yourself in action? I remember that as quite an eye-opener. Our perceptions of ourselves are often at odds with what we actually do.
I was sharing my new Flip video camera with a friend last night at a beautiful retirement party for my husband. (Wow! My husband is so loved, appreciated and respected by his colleagues and staff at the university. It was an incredibly moving event.) Back to the camera: for a non-techie like me, being able to so easily capture sweet moments like the ones experienced last night, and donwload them quickly is a joy. My friend, Jackson, said he uses his Flip camera to let his undergrad students watch themselves facilitate outdoor growth activities. Not surprisingly, after they have seen themselves through the lens of a camera, they often say, “I do that???”
This is the crucial first-level personal awareness that is necessary for growth: seeing what is true about my behavior and actions in contrast to my well-set ideas about my behavior. Visual feedback is profoundly useful. So is the Enneagram. It gives us specific information about the behaviors and external expressions associated with each personality type.
I was thinking–wouldn’t it be interesting to have another version of the Flip that showed us with as much precision what our thinking, feeling and somatic responses are? What about a camera that could show us our deeper motivational patterns? We are often wed to certain ideas about why we do what we do. But, those. too, are often at odds with reality. What about a camera that could show us the deep terrain of our life–those places where we have the most pain to be released and the path to our greatest joy and freedom?
For now, there is no physical camera that I know of that can do this. But the Enneagram does offer the psychological and spiritual lens to take us as deep as we want to go. Once we plug into its vast body of wisdom, we have an incredible tool for our 2nd, 3rd, 4th and more advanced levels of awareness and self-knowledge.
Visit www.deepcoaching.com. Check out Deep Coaching: Using the Enneagram as a Catalyst for Profound Change, and keep an eye out for my newest book, Deep Living: Using the Enneagram to Connect You to Your Transformational Path.
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Wednesday,
May
5th,
2010
On a recent flight out of Albuquerque, I had the pleasure of sitting next to a lovely woman who had a spiritual book out to read. We didn’t talk until about the last 15 minutes of the flight, when she indicated that she “really needed” the guidance from the book due to a very difficult interaction with her brother who had yelled at her over the phone. I could see that she was upset, though not overtly. We conversed about the Inner Work that relationships (and all of life) take.
After we landed and were in the airport, I saw her again. She was working on releasing him from her expectations, and having compassion for his suffering. “That’s all I can do.”
I was waiting for my connecting flight, and saw her again. She came over to me, with huge eyes almost at the point of tears. During the flight, her brother had left a message and apologized. He also said that his anger and volatility were ’signals’ for help. She couldn’t believe it. It was the first time he had ever shown his more vulnerable side to her.
We looked into each other’s eyes, and both said, “This is a miracle.” It was a miraculous moment for the two of us, as well.
Her book? A Course in Miracles. My work? The Enneagram. We talked about where these two meet: the gradual releasing of the ego’s holding, a gradual dissolving of the places where we get stuck in our false realities. And the beauty of the work was so clear–she allowed grace to arise as she invited what’s real–love to be the focus of her consciousness.
Is there an idea, a behavior, a reaction you are ready to release? Your miracle is waiting for you.
Categories : Awakening, Awareness, Love, Presence, Relationships, Transformation, Uncategorized
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Monday,
May
3rd,
2010
The world is filled with people looking for the “key” that will deeply fulfill and nurture them. Mostly, people look in the wrong places. In an old spiritual teaching, Nasrutin looked and looked for the pearl under the street light. When asked if that is where he lost the pearl, he said, “no, but this is where the light is.” As long as we look in the wrong place, we’ll never find the answer.
The Enneagram shows us the where the key is.
This is the last day to vote for my newest Enneagram book, Deep Living. You can vote by clicking on the link below. Let me know you voted by emailing me: Roxanne [at] deepcoaching dot com.
“On the transformational journey, one size does not fit all. There is a path that connects with YOUR inner experience. Find it and you’ll have the KEY you’ve been looking for.” Please help users find the KEY to what they’ve really been looking for all their life by voting for Roxanne’s next Enneagram book, Deep Living, at the NextTopAuthor competition at @ http://bit.ly/NextTopAuthor
Thank you!
Categories : Awakening, Being Present, Deep Living, Deep Living-the Book, Presence, Transformation, Uncategorized
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Monday,
May
3rd,
2010
This is a reminder that Tuesday, May 11th is the last day to register for the Enneagram Institute -San Francisco Bay Area retreat.
We human beings are not static. What creates the personality’s and soul’s movement, and how to be more conscious. compassionate and present to the many variations we experience in ourselves is the focus of this authorized Riso-Hudson program. Specifically, we will explore the vertical axis of the personality and the movement to the Integration Point.
It’s a fascinating exploration that we will meet with tenderness and spaciousness at the beautiful Mercy Center Retreat center, not far from the SFO airport. Come let your soul rest.
Your Journey of Growth: Working with the Dynamism and Levels of the Enneagram
(formerly known as The Levels of Development: The Vertical Dimension to Personality Type and Guide to Greater Health and Transformation)
A Retreat Sponsored by Mercy Center
With Dr. Roxanne Howe–Murphy and Dr. Ronna Phifer–Ritchie
The Levels of Development (LOD), one of the most profound contemporary contributions to the Enneagram field and identified by Don Riso and Russ Hudson, explains the vertical dimension to the personality types. The Levels help us track our movement along a continuum toward more freedom, consciousness, expansiveness, and Being in the higher Levels (or toward more reactivity and self–destructiveness in the lower ones).
By introducing this “vertical axis” to the types, the Levels explain some of the most important things that we find in human nature–fluidity and change, resistance and conflict, freedom and compulsion–among many human qualities. Working with the Levels points us to where we are in our journey of growth, and guides us toward greater health and transformation.
Registration deadline: May 11, 2010
To Register:
http://www.mercy-center.org/Flyers_2010/0521Enneagram/retreat.html
Retreat Hours:
Friday, May 21: 7:00 PM–9:30 PM
Saturday, May 22: 9:00 AM–Noon, 3:30–6:00 and 7:00–9:30 PM
Sunday, May 23: 9:00 AM–Noon, 1:00–3:00 PM
Faculty:
Dr. Roxanne Howe–Murphy, Enneagram teacher and coach, is the founder of Deep Coaching (www.deepccoaching.com), the Deep Coaching Training Program, and the Director of the Enneagram Institute of the San Francisco Bay Area. She is the author of the internationally adopted book, Deep Coaching: Using the Enneagram as a Catalyst for Profound Change.and a new Enneagram book this fall.
Dr. Ronna Phifer–Ritchie, Principal of Enneagrowth, is a consultant and public speaker. She holds a doctorate in counseling psychology and a master’s in marriage and family therapy . Phifer–Ritchie is a certified life coach and a researcher in early Christian studies and the Enneagram. She is the Co–Director of the Enneagram Institute of the San Francisco Bay Area. She is currently engaged in a relationships project with Riso and Hudson. www.enneagrowth.com.
For more info: http://enneagramcalifornia.com/riso-hudson-workshops/levels-of-development/
Read what others have said:http://enneagramcalifornia.com/testimonials/read-what-others-have-said/
Today is the last day to vote for Deep Living in the Next Top Author Competition. If you haven’t done so yet, I appreciate your vote to help bring this message out to millions of others:
“On the transformational journey, one size does not fit all. There is a path that connects with YOUR inner experience. Find it and you’ll have the KEY you’ve been looking for.” Please help users find the KEY to their growth by voting for Roxanne’s next Enneagram book, Deep Living, at the NextTopAuthor competition at @ http://bit.ly/NextTopAuthor
Categories : Awakening, Awareness, Being Present, Enneagram, Paradoxes, Presence, Self-awareness, Spirituality, Uncategorized
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Tuesday,
April
20th,
2010
”Acceptance is one of the paradoxes of [Deep Coaching], and is one of its most profound teachings and practices. The Enneagram points to our strengths and gifts, to patterns that casue trouble or unncessary conflict in our lives, and to everything in between. When any part of us is denied or judged, we create a war within. We become divided against ourselves and create an obstacle to our growth and development.
We unsuspectingly give energy to those areas of our lives that we do not want to acknowledge through the process of denying and/or avoiding. Those issues, feelings, or experiences which we actively avoid will continue to lurk, grow even larger and pop out when least expected.
When an issue or topic is being avoided in a client’s life (as well as in a coaching conversation), it consumes precious life energy and creates unneeded tension [and stress.] It leads to constriction.” (excerpt from R. Howe-Murphy, Deep Coaching: Using the Enneagram As a Catalyst for Profound Change, Enneagram Press, 2007, p. 170.)
Helping our clients to acknowledge and accept what shows up (without acting on these inner experiences) honors the full range of the human experience. To provide this kind of allowing is a radical departure from the usual experience and is a powerful step towards liberation.
“On the transformational journey, one size does not fit all. There is a path that connects with YOUR inner experience. Find it and you’ll have the KEY you’ve been looking for.” Help readers find the KEY to their growth by voting for Roxanne’s next Enneagram book, Deep Living, at the NextTopAuthor competition at @ http://bit.ly/NextTopAuthor
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I just had a rich conversation with one of my clients, where we explored the distinction between “hope” and “what is.”
I have found this to be a tricky place in my own life. After all, hope is generally considered something uplifting, inspiring and forward moving. We hear “What do we have if not hope?” Isn’t this something we hold onto? Hope for happiness? Hope for a better future? Hope for a better outcome? Hope for a better life? Isn’t this is the basis for why many engage in spiritual work or coaching, for example? Hoping that something will be better.
One could even have a type of hope about something in the past. For example, have you ever wished that your parents had done something differently? Or that someone wouldn’t have suffered the way that they did? We could actually spend a lot of energy there, that can never have its wished-for impact. I love the comment by Jack Kornfield that, ”Forgiveness is letting go of the hope of a better past.”
This leads to inquiring about the different dimensions of hope.
On one hand, hope can take a number of very active forms, with the ultimate effect of resisting ’what is.’ For example, I could hope that another person would treat me in a certain way, or that a person would make a certain choice. I could hope that I had more of something or less of something. Take a look for yourself, and see what it is that you are “hoping for.” Then, look at the outcome. What difference has it made? Has it lessened or increased your unhappiness?
Here are a few questions that I’ve found helpful for me. When does hope become a want? Where does this form of hope come from? Is it from an idea about how things are supposed to be? Is there someway that ‘hoping’ takes you away from looking at something inside of yourself? What are the outcomes of the mental activity of “hoping?”
What about the hope you experience in your heart? What are your deepest hopes? I think this is where the teaching of Gandi supports us: ‘be the change you want to see in the world.’ This is where authentic hope actually lives–in the embodiment of our lives. What is it that we can address inside of ourselves that allows just this one person to make a shift? When we make the change, then hope lives.
Herein is the paradox of hope.
Roxanne Howe-Murphy, Ed.D. www.deepcoaching.com
Through the Power of Allowing, Discover The Wonder of Being at Home in Yourself. Herein lies real peace and your life’s truest expression.
Please help me promote this message of loving presence by voting for my newest Enneagram book in the NextTopAuthor competition at @ http://bit.ly/NextTopAuthor
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In recent conversations with coaches, we’ve talked about how to best support our clients when using the Enneagram. There is so much to learn about the internal world of each of the nine types or spheres of consciousness.
It’s true. The Enneagram is a vast body of wisdom. It speaks to our intellectual curiosity because it has so much to teach. There’s so much information on each of types, and sometimes, that’s where we get stuck. In the busy mind culture that most of us live in, the tendency is to want to understand it all, and understand it right now. That’s why the Enneagram has often been misinterpreted simply as a “typing’ tool. It’s easy for the mind to categorize and label and then come up with a few solutions to how to work with that particular type.
But the Enneagramm also speaks to our hearts because we can’t help but be deeply touched by seeing how the nine egoic structures play out, and the enormous unconscious suffering that is caused when we take the ego to be who we are. When we penetrate below the structures, and see the true yearning that each individual has, we see that the majority of our unconscious behaviors are the ego’s way of trying to resolve the pain. Our compassion for ourselves, for our clients and loved ones, and indeed, for the world, is magnfied a thousand times. It’s a lot for the heart to bear.
And that’s why the Enneagram also focuses on the wisdom of the Body. It is here, in the belly center (kath point or lower tan tien) that we come into contact with the 3rd center of our whole being’s intelligence. As we develop the capacity to ‘be with’ this center, that our experience of ourselves in relationship to the world changes. We have our substance, our physicality, our hereness, our inner power, and through this center that we connect with ground.
When we connect to the foundational center, the belly, our hearts can open to and hold with such compassion the human condition. And from that place, what the client needs from our time together, becomes more available.
It’s a radically different way of approaching coaching: with a depth of Presence that is developed through contact with the 3 centers of intelligence. Coaches, this counter-intuitive approach offers such value. It is based upon what is here, what is real, and not upon the mental agenda of the busy mind. And from Presence, all coaching topics, from peronal and relationship issues to organizational strategy-planning becomes cleaner and clearer.
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“On the transformational journey, one size does not fit all. There is a path that connects with YOUR inner experience. Find it and you’ll have the KEY you’ve been looking for.” Please help users find the KEY to their growth by voting for Roxanne’s next Enneagram book, Deep Living, at the NextTopAuthor competition at @ http://bit.ly/NextTopAuthor
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Friday,
April
16th,
2010
Have you ever wondered why you are sometimes so open, flexible, easily able to navigate change, and at other times, you’re tense, constricted and resistant? What happens that contributes to your experience of freedom and expansiveness, or to compulsiveness and even self-destructiveness?
With exquisite and almost uncanny precision, the Enneagram helps us understand the movement up and down the “spine” of flexibility and health. The Vertical Dimension of the Enneagram, named the Levels of Development by the Enneagram pioneer who discovered them, Don Riso, provides a stunning richness and depth to our self-understanding.
The Levels have been endorsed by Ken Wilbur has said that it is this vertical dimension that moves the Enneagram toward a complete psychology.
On May 21-23 (Fri night to Sunday afternoon), 2010 Mercy Center in Burlingame, California, is hosting my colleague, Dr. Ronna Phifer-Ritchie and I to facilitate the ”The Levels of Development” Retreat (aka Your Journey of Growth: Working with the Dynamism and Levels of the Enneagram). In this deeply personal work, you’ll discover that you are so much more than who you’ve thought yourself to be.
The beautiful Mercy Retreat center is about 15 minutes from SFO).
For more information: http://enneagramcalifornia.com/riso-hudson-workshops/levels-of-development/
To register now: http://www.mercy-center.org/Flyers_2010/0521Enneagram/retreat.html
“On the transformational journey, one size does not fit all. There is a path that connects with YOUR inner experience. Find it and you’ll have the KEY you’ve been looking for.” Please help users find the KEY to their growth by voting for Roxanne’s next Enneagram book, Deep Living, at the NextTopAuthor competition at @ http://bit.ly/NextTopAuthor
Categories : Awakening, Being Present, Enneagram, Essential Nature, Presence, Seekers - Enneagram Workshops, Self-awareness, Spirituality, Transformation, Uncategorized
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